My first love experience was an obsessive one. I loved the girl to death, i was constantly under fear of loosing her because there was a huge gap between us. Our love was not meant to be real, it was a forbidden one.
It was so hard to accept that fact and get over it. Not that she was being loyal in spite of me loving her against all odds and gods. Still, i have suffered hell in my love relation ship.
That constant fear of loosing her gave me panic attacks. I was under a psychological treatment and after months, i was told that i had an obsession about her and that it can be very dangerous.
I couldn’t imagine how i could survive once we fall apart. But the thing is, there is a way and if you are obsessed, you can get over it.
Getting over an obsession
Its not that easy, but it does happen over a period of time. Time heals such emotional and mental pains. you will eventually get over it once you get your mind off it.
In my experience, she left me out of no where, just like that. So our connection was broken. In spite of me sending her mails and messages, i never got any replies. Over a period of time, i gradually stopped sending her mails and started focusing on my work and other projects.
You will have to accept that horrible fact and go through the pain. You will get used to that pain and mental trauma, just like me. And just when you see no hope of progress in your relation ship, you will be prepared for the next step which is getting started to move on.
The thing is, when you are obsessed, you are in your own mental world. You cant think of anything else but your love. I had to get out of it somehow because the pain was unbearable. I got rid of all her gifts to me. That way there was nothing around me that reminded me of her.
I changed my job and moved to another city. That made me get my mind off her thoughts and focus on other things.
Sometimes, controlling your thoughts can be hard. That is why having some activity always helps.
Other thing i did was openly talk about my obsession and what that girl did to me with my group of friends, they shared some weird obsession related stories with me and gave me some comfort to get over it.
So you all obsessed people out there. Obsession can be dangerous, you might end of killing yourself or the one you are obsessed about.
Thanks goodness i was no where around that level of obsession.
I moved on, time really does heal pain.
